Tips for Writing Your Own Vows
As an elopement photographer, one of my favorite things is being able to share in my couples’ personal vows. It’s such a special moment, especially when a couple has taken the time to write their own vows. Besides being a great way to slow down and reflect on the journey of your relationship, writing your own vows makes your ceremony feel even more personal and meaningful.
Reasons to Write Your Own Vows
In my opinion, personal, handwritten vows just have a more meaningful effect. Writing your own vows shows that you took the time to reflect on your relationship and put into words why you’ve decided to commit your life to this special person. It’s no small gesture, by any means! Here are some reasons I find personal vows so special:
Personalization: There's definitely an element of authenticity and personality when writing your own vows that showcases the uniqueness of your relationship. it makes a ceremony feel more special and intimate, especially when it's just the two of you!
Handwritten vows make a great gift! There are so many gorgeous vow books you can purchase to handwrite your vows and then gift them to each other after the ceremony! It's so special having my husbands thoughts about our love and commitment in his own handwriting.
Emotional connection: Writing your own vows can be a deeply emotional experience, and sharing them with your partner in front of your loved ones can be a powerful moment of connection.
Reflection: Writing your own vows allows for a moment to slow down and reflect on your relationship and your future together. And perhaps an unpopular opinion, but i love when couples write (or rewrite) their vows on their actual wedding day. I think it's a great opportunity to slow down and really soak in moments before your big day!
Tips for Writing Your Own Vows
Writing your own vows can be immensely intimidating—I get it! But remember writing your own vows is a journey, and you can share the experience with your partner. Sit down over a nice dinner and discuss how you make each other feel and be honest in your thoughts of the relationship and your future. This is a great exercise to help in writing your own vows. Here are some additional tips to get you started!
Start early with initial drafts. Writing your own wedding vows takes time and thought. Give yourself plenty of time to reflect on your relationship and what you want to say. I wrote down a few different drafts ahead of time then transcribed them into my vow book the day of our wedding.
Decide if you want to share your vows with guests. while most people feel comfortable sahring their personal vows with their guests, others may want to keep that moment just between themselves and their partner. My husband and I shared one set of private vows, then wrote another set to share at our ceremony in front of guests. It’s totally up to you!
Be authentic. Don't try to be someone you're not in your vows. Speak from your heart and be genuine. Your vows can be serious, funny, or both! Your vows should be meaningful, but not too long.
Consider if you want your vow writing captured. Personally, I love when couples hand write their vows the day of their elopement because it’s always such an emotional moment captured.
Include stories and shared experiences. Sharing stories or experiences that are meaningful to your relationship is a great way to add a personal touch. This will help make your vows unique and special.
Remember, your wedding vows are a beautiful opportunity to express your unique love and commitment to your partner. So take your time, be true to yourself, and have fun with it!